| Edition |
First edition. |
| Description |
ix, 274 pages : illustrations ; 25 cm |
| Note |
Includes index. |
| Summary |
We all have someone we can't get along with--a friend or colleague, a boss, an obnoxious neighbor, a teenager, or maybe a loving but irritating spouse. Here, cognitive therapist Burns presents Cognitive Interpersonal Therapy, a radical new approach that will help you transform troubled, conflicted relationships into successful, happy ones. This book presents an entirely new theory of why we have so much trouble getting along with each other. It's filled with helpful examples and brilliant, user-friendly tools such as the Relationship Satisfaction Test, the Relationship Journal, the Five Secrets of Effective Communication, the Intimacy Exercise, and more, so you can enjoy far more loving and satisfying relationships with the people you care about.--From publisher description. |
| Contents |
Why can't we all just get along? -- What the experts say -- The dark side of human nature -- Why we secretly love to hate -- Three ideas that can change your life -- Diagnosing your relationship -- How good is your relationship? : the relationship satisfaction test -- What do you really want? -- The price of intimacy -- The relationship journal -- Good communication vs. bad communication -- How we control other people -- Three troubled couples -- How to develop loving relationships with the people you care about -- The five secrets of effective communication -- The disarming technique -- Thought and feeling empathy? -- Inquiry : "did I get that right?" -- "I feel" statements -- Stroking : "I it" vs. "I thou" relationships -- Putting it all together : solutions to common relationship problems -- Making the five secrets work for you -- Mastering the five secrets -- Using the five secrets in real time : the intimacy exercise -- Intimacy training for couples : the one-minute drill -- Common traps and how to avoid them -- "Help! the five secrets didn't work!" -- Helping and problem-solving -- Hiding your head in the sand : conflict phobia and anger phobia -- Apologizing : "Can't I just say, 'I'm sorry'?" -- Submissiveness : "I must please you" -- Resistance revisited : "why should I have to do all the work?" -- Advanced techniques -- Changing the focus : is there an elephant in the room? -- Positive reframing : opening the door to intimacy-and success -- Multiple-choice empathy : how to talk to someone who refuses to talk to you. |
| Subject |
Interpersonal conflict.
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Conflict (Psychology)
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Interpersonal relations.
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Cognitive therapy.
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
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Conflict, Psychological
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Interpersonal Relations.
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| ISBN |
9780767920704 |
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0767920708 |
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