Foreword / Betty Berzon -- Step 1. Identifying Yourself -- Step 2. Recognizing Self-Loathing and Creating Self-Respect -- Step 3. Learning the Truth About Being Gay -- Step 4. Meeting Other Gay People -- Step 5. Developing a Family of Friends -- Step 6. Telling Your Best Friend -- Step 7. Coming Out to Other Friends -- Step 8. That First Talk -- Step 9. Keeping the Discussion Going -- Step 10. Bringing Home Your Gay Friends and Partners -- Step 11. Understanding and Assessing the Sexual Nature of the Workplace -- Step 12. Letting Coworkers Find Out -- Step 13. Helping Others to Come Out -- Step 14. Not Thinking About It at All.