| Description |
xi, 276 pages ; 22 cm |
| Bibliography |
Includes bibliographical references. |
| Form |
Issued also in electronic format. |
| Contents |
PARENTING PRIMER. Belonging -- Encouragement -- Family fun -- Family meetings -- Firm and friendly -- Four dances of misbehavior -- Mutual respect -- Natural and logical consequences -- Never do for a child what a child can do for herself -- Punishments and rewards are old school -- Respect -- Take time for training (TTFT) -- THE CLASSICS: A DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO OVERCOMING THOSE TYPICAL TRIALS. Sulking -- Whining -- Crying -- Cheating -- Lying -- Tantrums -- SLEEPING: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO GETTING WEE ONES TO WINKY LAND. Won't fall asleep unless parent lies with them -- Wakes every few hours during the night -- Crawls into your bed at night -- Night terrors and nightmares -- Afraid of the dark -- Comes out of room after being tucked in -- POTTY TRAINING AND THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO TOILETING. Holds bowels -- Will only move bowels in a pull-up -- Refuses diaper changes -- Won't use public toilet -- Accidents at playdates -- Won't use the school washroom -- Still pooping pats at age six, seven, eight or, yikes! nine -- Still wetting bed at age seven (eight or nine) -- Refuses to wipe -- Refuses to wash hands -- FRETTING OVER FOOD: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO ENDING FOOD FIGHTS. The pokey eater -- The food strike -- Overeating -- The picky eater -- Will eat only if in front of the TV -- Gags or spits food out -- Won't give up the bottle -- FROM TROUGH TO TABLE: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO TABLE MANNERS. Won't set the table when it's their job -- Won't come to the table when called -- Gets up and down from the table -- Who invited Tom Foolery to the table? -- Talks with mouth full -- Refuses to clear plate -- Toys at the table -- SOCIAL SKILLS: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO SOCIALIZING YOUR LITTLE BARBARIAN. Won't say hello -- Won't say "please" and "thank-you" -- Won't kiss grandparents -- Tells your company to go home -- Potty-mouth -- Curses and swears like a sailor -- Rude, rude, rude -- Spitting -- Gives attitude and tone -- Doesn't play with friends invited over -- You hate your child's friends -- Has no friends -- You think your child is being bullied -- Your child is a bully -- HEALTH< HYGIENE AND HIGH FASHION: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO MANAGING ONE'S BODY. Won't brush teeth -- Refuses hair brushing -- You can never get the ponytails right -- Hates water and getting in the tub -- Will only wear one favorite pair of pants... and they're dirty -- Refuses to wear socks -- Won't take medicine -- Sticks hands in dirty diapers -- Disagreements about wardrobe -- Won't get dressed -- Won't put on pajamas at bedtime -- BAD HABITS: AND THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO BREAKING THEM. Hair twirling -- Hair sucking -- Masturbating tots -- Nose picking -- Thumb sucking -- Love objects -- Pacifier dependence -- Loves eating glue, playdough, etc. -- BEDROOM BRAWLS: AND THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO SETTING SPACE ISSUES. Won't make bed in the morning -- Won't put clothes in the laundry hamper -- Won't let sibling into bedroom -- Won't let you in bedroom -- Destroys bedroom during time-outs -- Writes on walls -- Siblings share a room, but they're the odd couple -- THE PLUGGED-IN KID: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO MANAGING THE WIRED WORLD. Inappropriate TV viewing -- Addicted to gaming -- Acts aggressively after watching violence -- Disregards screen-time limits -- Wants a cell phone -- SCHOOL 101: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO ACADEMIC AND SOCIAL ISSUES AT SCHOOL. Has poor grades -- Doesn't pay attention in class -- Homework hell -- Doesn't care about school or the subject matter -- Hates the teacher -- Always late for school -- Switching schools -- They're autocratic, we're democratic -- EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO MANAGE THE ANGST. The overscheduled child -- The dropout kid -- Goes to lessons but won't practice -- KIDS AND COINS: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO MONEY MATTERS. Mommy, but this is for me! ("Dammit" implied) -- Complaining about the amount of allowance -- Savings or "slavings?" -- Loses money -- SIBLING FIGHTING: THE DEMOCRATIC APPROACH TO ENDING IT. Sibling fighting cheat sheet -- Fighting in the car -- Mommy, he stole my toy! -- Can't or won't? -- The physical factor: when siblings physically fight -- My toddler is too rough with the baby -- Name-calling and being mean -- Is jealous -- THE BEST PRACTICES DEMOCRATIC FAMILY CHECKLIST. |
| Summary |
Love your kids but not always their behavior? Alyson's democratic parenting approach is based on psychotherapeutic principles, but it isn't parenting theory-- it's parenting action. Here are quick-and-dirty solutions when you need them. |
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Parenting.
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Child rearing.
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Child psychology.
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| ISBN |
9780470679098 |
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0470679093 |
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