Compiling the list : ten things that truly matter -- Searching for sorrow's daughter : finding a long-lost relative -- I'm so sorry for your loss : making a condolence call-- The check is in the mail : repaying a long-overdue debt -- I've been thinking of you since the planes struck : reaching out to a distant friend -- Forgive me the harm I wished on you : letting go of a grudge -- Thank you, Mr. Jarvis : seeking spiritual guidance from a mentor -- On the road to Mount Athos : taking the road not taken-- The day Eliot Ness set my grandfather straight--or did he? -- healing a family's wounds -- I remember Nana : eulogizing a loved one -- The circle grows wider : keeping a promise -- Epilogue: Moving ahead : the journey of a lifetime.