| Description |
179 pages ; 23 cm |
| Summary |
There is no crime--not even murder--that worries and sickens parents more than child sexual abuse. Parents wonder how to protect their children when almost every day the news reports another incident of someone in authority arrested on suspicion of child abuse--from clergy and teachers to family members themselves. Even law enforcement has had trouble defining the problem. Amid the confusion and uncertainty, what can parents do? In this clearly written guidebook, veteran sex-crimes prosecutor Robin Sax answers one hundred questions that she has most often encountered in her fifteen years of experience. From the definition of abuse to the profiles of a predator to how to report an incident and to whom, Sax provides practical, reassuring, and appropriate information.--From publisher description. |
| Contents |
Acknowledgments -- Foreword -- Introduction -- Author's note -- pt. 1. Recognizing the predators : molesters, pedophiles, and opportunists -- 1. How prevalent is child sexual abuse? -- 2. How do you define child sexual abuse? -- 3. What are the differences between a pedophile, an opportunist, a molester, and a predator? -- 4. What acts are considered sexually abusive? -- 5. If the child consents, is it still considered sexual abuse? -- 6. How prevalent is sexual abuse of males? -- 7. Are "Peeping Toms" and people who expose themselves considered sex offenders? -- 8. What is Megan's Law? -- 9. What does a molester look like? -- 10. What is "grooming"? -- 11. Where do molesters seek their victims? -- 12. Why are children susceptible to sexual abuse? -- 13. Where do molesters live? -- 14. Why do people molest? -- 15. What is the relationship between pornography and child molestation? -- |
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pt. 2. Talking to kids about risks and recognizing potential problems -- 16. How often should I talk to my children about preventing sexual abuse? -- 17. How can I teach my kids about personal safety without scaring them? -- 18. Is it OK to tell my children news stories about sexually assaulted children? -- 19. Are Internet predators different from other predators? Why are they so successful? -- 20. What should my family's rules be regarding our children's use of the Internet? -- 21. Should I allow my child on social-networking sites like MySpace, Facebook, or Second Life? -- 22. Should I hack into my kids' computers and monitor their Web site usage? -- 23. What factors make someone more likely to sexually abuse a child? -- 24. What should I do about sleepovers? -- 25. Can schools hire a teacher who has been accused of sex acts with children? -- 26. Do schools do background checks on employees such as teachers, staff, and administrators? -- 27. Should I let my child play outside in the neighborhood? -- 28. How can I find out if registered sex offenders live near me? -- 29. As a single mom, what should I do if I learn that the man I'm dating is a sex offender? -- 30. As a divorced dad, is it OK if I bathe my preschool daughter? -- 31. How should I screen a babysitter or nanny? -- 32. Should I get a "nanny-cam" or other surveillance product? -- |
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pt. 3. Recognizing abuse -- 33. Should I report a suspected child abuser to the police or do I need tangible evidence? -- 34. What are the signs that a child has been improperly touched? -- 35. What are the potential warning signs of teacher misconduct? -- 36. What are the qualities of unnatural sexual behavior? -- 37. What do I do if I am uncomfortable with the way someone acted, even though he never touched my child or said anything directly sexual? -- 38. What should I do if my child discloses sexual assault? -- 39. What if I don't believe my child? -- 40. How late is too late to report sexual abuse? -- 41. Who are mandated reporters and what are their responsibilities? -- 42. What should I do if I suspect a child, other than mine, is being touched? -- 43. What is the difference between a SCAR and a police report? -- 44. What makes kids disclose molestation? -- 45. What makes kids not disclose molestation? -- 46. How do I know if my child is telling the truth? -- 47. Can a man or boy still have an erection or ejaculate if he is frightened? -- 48. How is sexual assault related to abduction? -- 49. What is an Amber Alert? -- |
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pt. 4. Reporting sexual abuse -- 50. What kind of evidence is considered "corroboration" of child sexual abuse? -- 51. What are the general stages of crime scene investigation as it relates to child sexual assault? -- 52. What happens if there is a sexual assault disclosure during a divorce case? -- 53. Can a polygraph be used to validate a child's disclosure of sexual abuse? -- 54. What is "child sexual abuse accommodation syndrome"? -- 55. How do you find a predator whose identity my child doesn't know? -- 56. Under what circumstances will Child Protective Services (CPS) take my child away from me? -- 57. Whom should I call first if my child discloses sexual abuse? -- 58. What will the police do if I report the abuse? -- 59. Will an offending parent be deported if in this country illegally? -- 60. What if the victim is not a citizen? -- 61. What is a multidisciplinary team? -- 62. What is a forensic interview? -- 63. How many people will my child need to talk to? -- 64. Will the interview be videotaped? -- 65. Can I watch the interview? -- 66. Will my child need to have a medical or physical exam? Is it invasive or painful? -- |
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pt. 5. Going to court -- 67. How do you determine whether a child can testify in court? -- 68. What is the difference between criminal court, civil court, family court, and dependency court? -- 69. What rights do victims have from governmental agencies? -- 70. What makes a case qualify to be filed? -- 71. What happens if a criminal case is not filed? -- 72. Who files a criminal case and what can be charged? -- 73. How long does a prosecutor have to file charges? -- 74. What if the victim or parent does not want to file charges? -- 75. Can a parent file a civil case? -- 76. Can my child's identity be shielded? -- 77. Are courtrooms closed in sexual assault cases? -- 78. What are the typical stages of the criminal court process? -- 79. How long does the criminal process take? -- 80. How do you prepare a child to testify in court? -- 81. What special procedures are in place for child sexual assault victims in court? -- 82. If a case is filed, will my child need to testify in court? -- 83. If my child has received a subpoena, what happens next? -- 84. Can't my child just write out a statement or testify via closed-circuit TV? -- 85. Can I watch my child testify? -- 86. What are the typical defenses in child sexual assault cases? -- 87. What is Jessica's Law? -- 88. Does the victim have a say in the perpetrator's sentencing? -- 89. What are the usual sentences/punishments for sex crimes? -- 90. Is registering as a sex offender a lifelong requirement? -- 91. Can child victims get a protective order or restraining order? -- 92. What happens if my child or someone else receives threats from the perpetrator? -- |
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pt. 6. Healing and moving on -- 93. What kind of financial resources are available for the victim? -- 94. Can molesters be cured? -- 95. How should I talk to my child about the abuse? -- 96. What is the usual healing process for a victim of abuse? -- 97. Whose fault is it that my child was molested? -- 98. Can my child victim turn into an adult perpetrator? -- 99. Can I tell my abused daughter that she is still a virgin? -- 100. How long does the healing process take? -- Appendix. Where can I go for more Information? |
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Child sexual abuse -- United States.
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Child sexual abuse -- United States -- Prevention.
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Child abuse -- United States.
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| ISBN |
9781591027126 paperback alkaline paper |
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1591027128 paperback alkaline paper |
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