| Description |
xiii, 222 pages ; 21 cm |
| Bibliography |
Includes bibliographical references (pages 219-222). |
| Summary |
Lists the fears, concerns, doubts, and questions of adopted children, and explains how adoptive parents can ease their children's minds and understand their feelings. |
| Contents |
Adoption Through the Eyes of a Child -- Hidden Losses -- Entering Your Child's World -- Twenty Things Your Adopted Child Wants You to Know -- "I Suffered a Profound Loss Before I Was Adopted. You Are Not Responsible." -- "I Need to Be Taught That I Have Special Needs Arising From Adoption Loss, of Which I Need Not Be Ashamed." -- "If I Don't Grieve My Loss, My Ability to Receive Love From You and Others Will Be Hindered." -- "My Unresolved Grief May Surface in Anger Toward You." -- "I Need Your Help in Grieving My Loss. Teach Me How to Get in Touch With My Feelings About My Adoption and Then Validate Them." -- "Just Because I Don't Talk About My Birth Family Doesn't Mean I Don't Think About Them." -- "I Want You to Take the Initiative in Opening Conversations About My Birth Family." -- "I Need to Know the Truth About My Conception, Birth, and Family History, No Matter How Painful the Details May Be." -- "I Am Afraid I Was 'Given Away' by My Birth Mother Because I Was a Bad Baby. I Need You to Help Me Dump My Toxic Shame." -- "I Am Afraid You Will Abandon Me." -- "I May Appear More 'Whole' Than I Actually Am. I Need Your Help to Uncover the Parts of Myself That I Keep Hidden So I Can Integrate All the Elements of My Identity." -- "I Need to Gain a Sense of Personal Power." -- "Please Don't Say I Look or Act Just Like You. I Need You to Acknowledge and Celebrate Our Differences." -- "Let Me Be My Own Person ... But Don't Let Me Cut Myself Off From You." -- "Please Respect My Privacy Regarding My Adoption. Don't Tell Other People Without My Consent." |
| Subject |
Adoption.
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Adopted children.
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Adoptees.
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Adopted children. (OCoLC)fst00797050
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Adoptees. (OCoLC)fst00797063
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Adoption. (OCoLC)fst00797076
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Adopted children.
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Adoptees.
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ADOPTION.
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Parenting.
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| Other Form: |
Online version: Eldridge, Sherrie. Twenty things adopted kids wish their adoptive parents knew. New York, N.Y. : Dell Pub., ©1999 (OCoLC)894786257 |
| ISBN |
044050838X |
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9780440508380 |
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