On being yourself. Dear Anita : late night thoughts of an Irish Catholic homosexual -- Coming out : the price -- Coming out : the payoff -- Words of oppression -- Whose gay apparel? -- More pluses -- The next step -- Growing up gay. The prom -- Class reunion -- My family -- Our family -- The march -- Friends and lovers. Meeting new people -- Making it last -- Monogamy -- Open relationships -- Cheap sex -- Life's real meaning -- The Church. In defence of faith -- The sad delima of the gay Catholic -- Gay and Catholic -- But do you love the Church? -- Duplicity -- The Pope's visit -- Forgiveness -- One final note. I like it