| Edition |
1st ed. |
| Description |
xv, 287 pages ; 25 cm |
| Note |
"A living planet book." |
| Bibliography |
Includes bibliographical references (pages 276-287). |
| Contents |
The road not taken: turning boys away from their inner life -- Thorns among roses: the struggle of young boys in early education -- The high cost of harsh discipline -- The culture of cruelty -- Fathers and sons: a legacy of desire and distance -- Mothers and sons: a story of connection and change -- Inside the fortress of solitude -- Boys' struggle with depression and suicide -- Drinking and drugs: filling the emotional void -- Romancing the stone: from heartfelt to heartless relations with girls -- Anger and violence -- What boys need. |
| Summary |
This is a book that answers our timely and critical need to understand our boys. The authors, two of the country's leading child psychologists, share what they have learned in more than thirty five years of combined experience working with boys and their families. They reveal a nation of boys who are hurting, sad, afraid, angry, and silent. Statistics point to an alarming number of young boys at high risk for suicide, alcohol and drug abuse, violence and loneliness. They set out to answer this basic, crucial question: What do boys need that they're not getting? They illuminate the forces that threaten our boys, teaching them to believe that "cool" equals macho strength and stoicism. Cutting through outdated theories of "mother blame," "boy biology," and "testosterone," the authors shed light on the destructive emotional training our boys receive, the emotional miseducation of boys. Through moving case studies and cutting-edge research, this book paints a portrait of boys systematically steered away from their emotional lives by adults and the peer "culture of cruelty", boys who receive little encouragement to develop qualities such as compassion, sensitivity, and warmth. The good news is that this doesn't have to happen. There is much we can do to prevent it. The authors make a compelling case that emotional literacy is the most valuable gift we can offer our sons, urging parents to recognize the price boys pay when we hold them to an impossible standard of manhood. They identify the social and emotional challenges that boys encounter in school and show how parents can help boys cultivate emotional awareness and empathy, giving them the vital connections and support they need to navigate the social pressures of youth. This book attempts to change the way we see our sons and will transform the way we help them to become happy and fulfilled young men. |
| Subject |
Boys -- Psychology.
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Emotions in children.
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Emotions in adolescence.
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Sex role in children.
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Masculinity.
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Boys -- Psychology.
(OCoLC)fst00837382
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Emotions in adolescence. (OCoLC)fst00908859
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Emotions in children. (OCoLC)fst00908863
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Masculinity. (OCoLC)fst01011027
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Sex role in children. (OCoLC)fst01114648
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Boys -- Psychology.
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Emotions in children.
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Sex role.
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Men -- Psychology.
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| Added Author |
Thompson, Michael, 1947-
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Barker, Teresa.
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| Other Form: |
Online version: Kindlon, Daniel J. (Daniel James), 1953- Raising Cain. 1st ed. New York : Ballantine Books, 1999 (OCoLC)606408984 |
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Online version: Kindlon, Daniel J. (Daniel James), 1953- Raising Cain. 1st ed. New York : Ballantine Books, 1999 (OCoLC)607817894 |
| ISBN |
0345424573 (HC ; alk. paper) |
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9780345424570 (HC ; alk. paper) |
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