Acknowledgements -- Introduction -- Heterosexism in the family of origin to healthy self-care -- Gay children, teens, and adults from heterosexist families -- Problems and strengths of gay seniors -- Unknown to known population -- The "out" and "closeted" gay populations -- Coming out is not a one shot deal -- Hiv and aids -- Homophobia to pure loving -- The seven stages of coming out -- Prejudice to pride -- Homophobic religious leaders and members -- Church and conservative right-wing enmeshment -- Past to present views -- Heterosexism, heterocentrism, homophobia, and the DSM -- The model of change -- New glossary of terms -- Positive and negative energy ripples -- Discrimination to advocacy -- Acknowledging the harm that discrimination causes -- Gay education -- Personal stories of gay discrimination.