| Description |
1 online resource (317 pages) |
| Contents |
Cover Page; Copyright; Title Page; Dedication; Contents; Acknowledgments; Author's Note; Preface; 1 Two Parental Tasks; Part 1: Recognition; 2 A Need to Be Known; The Act of Recognition; All Our Lives; "Watch Me!"; Empty Chair; Clinical Observations; Solitary Confinement; Misrecognition; Recognition in Character Development; 3 How to Recognize; Make Time, Find the Occasion; Choose the Moment; Make It Clear: We're in This Together; Speak with (True) Empathy; Recognize You Are Separate-and an Adult; Keep an Adult Style and Sense of Proportion; Speak Courteously. |
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Be Frank without Lying, Guessing, or Making NiceBe Precise; Use "I" Statements; Find the Constructive Motive; Use Tact: Recognize from "Above"; Remember: Relationship, Relationship, Relationship; 4 Stage and Theme; Put Feelings into Interpersonal Context; Recognize Developmental Leitmotifs; A General Approach to Recognition; 5 An Invisible Girl: Lisa; Who Knew?; A Developmental History; Part 2: Limits; 6 A Need for No; Selfish from the Start; The Second Parental Task; A Culture of Narcissism; Why Some Parents Are Reluctant to Set Limits; Coach Fitz; What Limits Do. |
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Limits Challenge the "Flawed Approach" of Immaturity7 How to Say "No"; The Fundamental Rule: Insist upon Basic Courtesy; Anatomy of a Set Limit; Put Privileges in Proper Sequence; A Second Fundamental Rule: "Or Else"; Make It a Choice; Don't Make It Your Problem; Mean It; Accept Dysphoria; Hang Together; Firm up the Boundaries; Pick Your Battles; Choose Where and When; Fit the Consequence to Its Occasion; A General Approach to Limit-Setting; 8 Spoiled and Beaten: Frank and Gail; Part 3: Both at Once; 9 Parenting; Set Limits within a Relationship; Keep in Mind the Big Picture; Stay Adult. |
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Humor, Paradox, and SurpriseOmit Unnecessary Words; Recognize Resistance and Its Reasons; Avoid Tactical Errors; A General Approach to Both at Once; Putting It All Together-a Review; 10 Clinical Parenting; Why Outpatient Treatment (for Immaturity) May Fail; Why Public High Schools Also May Fail to Foster Maturity; Alternative Programs; Wilderness; Residential Therapeutic School 97; Cultural Norms; Notes. |
| Summary |
In this companion to his first book, An Unchanged Mind, John A. McKinnon provides invaluable advice to all parents of teenagers and young adults. Using case studies gathered from his years helping parents with troubled adolescents, Dr. McKinnon explores the ways that adolescent development can be derailed in today's complex culture and how parents can prevent this from happening in the first place. Dr. McKinnon writes about how parents need to recognize their children as individuals, with their own feelings and opinions, as they start to establish their separate identities as young people and. |
| Note |
Print version record. |
| Bibliography |
Includes bibliographical references. |
| Subject |
Parent and teenager.
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Adolescence.
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Emotional maturity.
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Adolescent psychology.
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FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS -- General.
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Adolescence. (OCoLC)fst00796984
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Adolescent psychology. (OCoLC)fst00797018
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Emotional maturity. (OCoLC)fst00908805
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Parent and teenager. (OCoLC)fst01053345
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| Genre/Form |
Electronic books.
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| Other Form: |
Print version: McKinnon, John A. To Change a Mind : Parenting to Promote Maturity in Teenagers. New York : Lantern Books, ©2011 9781590562345 |
| ISBN |
9781590562673 (ebook) |
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