Barbara'a introduction / Barbara Macdonald -- Cynthia's introduction / Cynthia Rich -- Do you remember me? / Barbara -- Look me in the eye / Barbara -- Exploitation by compassion / Barbara -- Aging, ageism and feminist avoidance / Cynthia -- An open letter to the women's movement / Barbara -- The women in the tower / Cynthia -- The power of the old woman / Barbara -- Cynthia's afterword -- Barbara's afterwords.