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1 online resource (xviii, 236 pages) |
| Note |
Originally published: New York : Harper and Row, ©1989. |
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Includes index. |
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Print version record. |
| Summary |
Challenging the firmly held belief that we must brave our circumstances and endure life?s crises, You Don?t Have to Suffer emphasizes that while hurt is inevitable in life, suffering is not. The author explains that we can consciously choose how and how much we suffer over our own experiences and tragedies. We can experience our losses, hardships, and disappointments and let go of them. We learn to apply these insights to our separation from others, recovery from grief, relationships with our parents and children, and our own bodies. Rather than?pour salt in our wounds??by dramatizing, personalizing, and romanticizing events, living in the past, going it alone, and denying our needs?Judy Tatelbaum shows us how to free ourselves and see life not as a?predicament? but as a challenge and a gift. You Don?t Have to Suffer takes readers through the various trials and tribulations of how we suffer, why we choose to continue to suffer, and ultimately, how we can raise ourselves above life?s challenges. |
| Contents |
Cover; Halftitle; Title; Copyright; Dedication; Contents; Foreword; Introduction: You Don't Have to Suffer; How to Use This Book: Having the Courage to Grow; I. WE CAN CHOOSE NOT TO SUFFER; 1. Hurt Is Inevitable-Suffering Is Not; 2. Accepting That Life Hurts; 3. Designing Our Destinies: Victims or Choosers; 4. Choosing to Transform Painful Experiences: Life as a Challenge or a Predicament; 5. The Commitment Not to Suffer; II. HOW WE PUT SALT IN OUR WOUNDS; 6. Being Right about Suffering: We Would Rather Be Right Than Happy; 7. Living in the Past; 8. Living in the Future; 9. Romanticizing. |
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10. Searching for Meaning11. Personalizing; 12. Dramatizing; 13. Torturing Ourselves; 14. Withholding Ourselves; 15. Living Halfheartedly; 16. Going It Alone; 17. Denying Our Needs; III. ARENAS OF SUFFERING; 18. Separating from Other People; 19. Overcoming Grief; 20. Our Relationship with Our Parents; 21. Our Bodies and Our Health; IV. HEALING OUR WOUNDS; 22. Forgiving Ourselves and Others; 23. Completing Our Experiences; 24. Recovering Ourselves: Tools for Healing; 25. Recovering Confidence and a Sense of Self; 26. Recovering by Contributing to Others: The Surest Means of Healing Ourselves. |
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27. Recovering by Structuring Our Lives with Purpose28. The Secrets of Shortcutting Hurt; 29. Life Is a Gift; Acknowledgments; Index; About the Author. |
| Subject |
Suffering.
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Adjustment (Psychology)
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HEALTH & FITNESS -- General.
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PSYCHOLOGY -- Applied Psychology.
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SELF-HELP -- Personal Growth -- General.
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SELF-HELP -- Personal Growth -- Happiness.
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SELF-HELP -- Personal Growth -- Success.
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Adjustment (Psychology) (OCoLC)fst00796680
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Suffering. (OCoLC)fst01137151
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| Genre/Form |
Electronic books.
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| Added Title |
You do not have to suffer |
| Other Form: |
Print version: Tatelbaum, Judy. You don't have to suffer. New York : Skyhorse Pub., ©2012 9781620871607 (DLC) 2012035563 (OCoLC)783160137 |
| ISBN |
9781620875506 (electronic bk.) |
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1620875500 (electronic bk.) |
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